A Few Keys to Understanding

Here are some important keys to understand ourselves, others, and life that I have experienced to be true:

1st Key

There is no point in planning for what you don’t know

YOUR energy and the true FACTS from the situation that lies ahead can never be assumed accurately. Probabilities can be anticipated…but there is no point in planning the unknown before you receive what you need in the moment because the information we use to plan ahead is innately flawed and rarely comes true.

2nd Key


Define what is important in the moment that your senses are placed in and put your energy and efforts to focus and gather information about those significant things just for the purpose of learning a little more about something that has such an impact on us.

Most times we think our desires and lusts are most important to us because they pull us the strongest. But, most of the time they lead us into dead ends and black holes of circling pleasure as we try our hardest to fight off pain.

For example: there is a girl that is searching around the party for sex and attention…but what she really NEEDS is acknowledgement of who she is and the direction of her character into something happy and not empty. So, instead of giving her what she ASSUMES is important in that moment…show her your care with questions in order to reveal what really is important to her in that moment of insecurity and oblivious value searching.

3rd Key

Concentrate on one thing at a time

As we gather information about something important…it is critical that we consciously stay on one subject at a time so we don’t have gaps in our understanding. Gaps will make us feel like we know it all, but we won’t actually know enough to experience a solution, a change, a high regard and respect for a growth in ourselves.

This one is tough in our AD prevalent society. This takes practice and a meditation into our darkened, solitude room of thoughts and emotions to find where we get distracted and bring us back to focusing on what is important.

4th Key

Use senses to observe facts

Not feelings

Not judgements or assumptions

Use experience

Experience comes from our senses

Sight, Sound, Touch, Smell, Taste

And our senses can ONLY be used in the moment

We need accurate facts to understand something important

THIS KEY also takes a lot of practice. It is not a tradition for us to decipher true facts from biased, half truths. We LOVE being right so we will take another person’s opinion and shuffle it into our ideas when someone asks us a question about that subject we really just have NO understanding of.

Check yo self before you wreck yo self.

And experience the facts of a situation from your own eyes/senses and move on to key #5.

5th Key

Use reason to develop curiosity.

Use questions to dig through the reason.

Reason is defined by connecting one fact to another fact. One experience to another. Connecting similarities and letting these connections grow your curiosity until you dig all the way to the core of the significant and incredibly important topic you were concentrating on.

What tool do we have to dig though?

Questions. Let your observation of the moment’s facts decide your questions…what you know…what you don’t…and innocently ask them in order to connect the dots and reveal the core, the motivations, the purposes, the truth.

“It’s empty in the valley of your heart…as you walk away from all the fears and all the thoughts you’ve left behind…let me at the truth which will refresh my broken mind.”

About Kevin Carlstead

I graduated as a hospitality and psychology student at University of Denver. I spent most of my teenage and young adult years in the hospitality industry. I am still searching for what industry suits my personality and talents so that I can feel more meaning throughout my days. My current career pursuit has me enrolled in a graduate program to become a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. I was born and raised in San Diego, CA. I love music with something to it. I love life with something to it. I have made it one of my purposes in this life to integrate both of these things that I love. This blog and my own songwriting has given me the platforms to do that very thing. Thank you for reading.
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